Let's go over the main different kinds of anxiety help that are available to you so you can get better...
If you reach out for help to most anywhere but here, there are 3 main anxiety treatment
types that you will see are available to you. (There's an additional 4th anxiety freedom
option that 99.99% of people don't know about too. More on this in a second...)
Let's start where you are at this exact moment...
So anxiety hits you REAL hard, and you realize you can't go on like this anymore...
You just can't even function and do all you have to do for yourself and your kids...
So you... somehow... muster the courage to get an appointment with your doctor...
Anxiety Treatment Option #1:
Let's even put the following Shocking fact aside:
The Canadian Journal of Psychiatry
The Canadian Journal of Psychiatry
A 36% higher chance of dropping dead...
Now I'm sure that when you're dead you're no longer anxious,
but I'm pretty sure you kinda like being alive so that's not really great news right...
Now in some cases, for a period of time, medication may be worth looking at.
I have absolutely no problem with that at all.
But anti anxiety medication is way too often prescribed as the very first (and often only) solution.
The problem goes way beyond the increased mortality rate I've just mentioned...
It is more often than not used as a crutch or band aid if you will, than a solution.
If all you do is use medication, without then actually addressing the underlying root causes
of your anxiety... than you're just buying time and not improving yourself at all..
Doctors are way too eager to prescribe anti anxiety medication. While some of them
are doing so out of pure greed, many doctors do have good intentions.
It's actually not their fault that they're so often prescribing medication.
As Dr Phil would say (I'm paraphrasing):
"People do the best they can with what they know and have at the time."
So the powerful big pharma industry plus what is being taught in medical school, have
influenced doctors into believing that medication is the one main solution when it comes to anxiety.
It's just not the case. By a LONG shot!
I'm not saying to never consider medication, but it should be
your last option, not your first, in my opinion.
You should try other forms of anxiety help first, for a long enough period of
time, to see how you can improve on your own. Without playing with your brain chemistry.
And then, only then, should you consider going the medication route in my opinion.
If you absolutely must only.
Anti anxiety medication is not treating the root cause
In most cases, unhealthy anxiety is the result of an imbalance in the brain.
It's not a hardwired imbalance that can't be changed without medication.
Rather an imbalance that developed suddenly, or over time.
Yet just as this imbalance happened without any chemicals or substances
entering your body, you can modify that brain balance without any substance as well.
You do this through brain plasticity.
Brain plasticity is the ability of your brain to change, re-wire itself and grow.
More on this later...
Anti anxiety medication results in
weakened coping skills
First of all...
When people try to discontinue their anti anxiety medication due to the side effects,
they realize their anxiety feelings and issues never really went away.
So even if medication initially "helps" you, you still haven't
solved the root causes that generated the anxiety in the first place.
And you often can't figure it out and solve it until you're off the meds.
That is why I say that medication is more like a crutch and a band aid.
What you want to do is to solve your anxiety problem, not simply mask it, right?
Lastly, when you're finally off meds, you realize you now have weakened coping skills.
Put simply: Medication seems to weaken your ability to deal with things,
which you only realize when you eventually get off medication.
So medication should be your last option. Not your first.
Anxiety Treatment Option #2:
People who are afraid of medication, or simply believe in the power of natural
medicine (rightly so), will sometime turn to natural supplements for help with their anxiety.
Natural supplements can help.
It definitely can.
Yet not only is this a really big topic that we could talk about for days...
You can get lost inn an endless quest and experimentation journey over many years...
Often times you may think you've just found the ONE supplement that will finally
solve your anxiety issues. Only to realize the initial effect seems to go away and you're back to where you started.
But there are some supplements, among the hundreds advertised out there, that can possibly lower some of your anxiety, make you feel a bit more centered, and and make your body more resistant to stress.
Natural supplements effects can usually add a decent but quite limited layer of "balance"
and calmness to your brain - which is still not really making your anxiety go away.
And it doesn't solve the root causes that generate your anxiety in the first place.
So, if you're interested in adding some helpful additional support,
by all means do some research and experimentation with supplements.
Just don't spend so much of your time and money squarely on this.
Again, it won't bring you to the anxiety free "promised land".
Not by a long shot. keep that in mind...
Here are some supplements that have been
proven to be helpful to a degree:
The ONE supplement most people should try. From a lot the research
I've seen, many of us are magnesium deficient. And Magnesium can definitely
help with its calming effect. It also help sleep better when taken at night.
This one has definitely been really helpful to many people.
It helps your brain operate more in the more relaxed "alpha state".
Look for an organic "sensha" from Japan.
Those help with Daily stress and Adrenal Fatigue. When you remain
mostly in a stressed state for too long, your cortisol levels remain high,
which overworks and burn your adrenals.
Adaptogens help your body better deal with stress, fatigue and rejuvenate your adrenal glands. There are many adaptogens, and people suffering from anxiety have
different and varying degrees of "results" with different ones.
Yet again VERY IMPORTANT:
Natural supplements can be a small helpful addition to your life.
Still, it is NOT the solution to freeing yourself from your crippling anxiety.
It is still not addressing the root cause of your anxiety and will only help you so much...
So if you want to free yourself from your anxiety hell, you will need to look elsewhere.
Anxiety Treatment Option #3:
Therapy is a contentious and hotly debated topic.
Can therapy help with various issues, including anxiety?
Is therapy the most helpful form of anxiety help?
There are many forms of therapy.
Let's examine the main ones...
Where the therapist just listen to you talk and never say a word.
He simply probe and let you talk some more. it is not working on the
root causes of your anxiety..
"Going back to childhood" therapy:
Where the therapist or psychologist gets you to go back into your past
and figure out where some things happened that made you who and how you are today.
Again, this is not the most helpful approach, because it's not focused on how
you and your brain are today. And what happens *today* when you experience anxiety.
For a treatment to work, it has to deal with what is here and now,
who you are right now, and what happens inside your brain at the very moment you start experiencing anxiety. Not what happened years ago.
CBT "Reasoning" Therapy:
Part of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) is to logically analyze your thoughts, fears and anxieties, and reason with yourself how these thoughts and feeling are irrational, are not based in reality, and thus they "make no sense".
Hoping that when you realize "there is nothing to be anxious about",
"there's no real threat here", that your anxiety will magically go away.
Now, have you ever experienced anxiety when you KNEW there was
no reason to be anxious, yet you were super anxious anyway?
Of course you have!
The reason is, anxiety is an emotional problem that needs to be solved
on the emotional level.
No wonder that trying to use logic to make your anxiety go away by convincing
yourself there's no reason to be worried... just... doesn't...work.
It's the idea of analyzing your thoughts, changing them
and using logic and facts to find out the "truth" (i.e. there nothing
to worry about right now).. and then hoping to get your emotional response to change
based on these thoughts.
When in reality: it's not the thoughts you need to change in order to feel differently. It's working on the emotional level and balancing your brain, that will change your experience ?and feelings?. and by having those changed, your thoughts will change too!
So it's not Thoughts ==> Feelings/Emotions.
Rather it's: Feelings/Emotions ==> Thoughts.
Otherwise it's like trying to change what's going on in your mind by hitting your head with a hammer...
...trying to make changes inside your mind from the outside in, by cramming in facts and rational thoughts in the hope you get
to feel different. Just... Doesn't... Work...
While you can get some temporary benefits focusing on and working
on your thoughts and logic, its working upside down/backwards
on your thoughts in order to get to the heart of your emotions.
Which is where the root cause of your anxiety is/reside.
As a result, You barely make any progress, very slowly, with lots of effort...
...because you're not working directly on the root cause/right level, which is on the
I know there is more to CBT than that, but trying to "make sense" of your experience,
and trying to logically convince yourself that what you're experiencing is irrational,
is a big part of CBT.
And so while it can help people to a degree, it also has limited results and slow improvements for most people.
The other solution and way people try to "overcome" their anxiety is....
Anxiety Treatment Option #4:
Self Help To The Rescue! (Not...)
Finally, the 3rd main form of anxiety help is self help.
Self help includes many different approaches, methods, techniques and tools.
Including what I do.
Yet I would dare say that as "new" as the latest self help books or programs may look,
90% of them rely on and regurgitate the same self help stuff that was taught
many decades ago.
The only difference is the fancy packaging and marketing.
All those same self help teachings that keep being regurgitated are
based on the old (and wrong) models of how we taught the brain worked.
If you look at today's breakthrough cutting edge brain research, of neuroscience
pioneers, you quickly realize that most all self help out there is PURE CRAP.
Yes I said it...
Most self help is pure crap.
Here are 3 of the most popular self help approaches these days, that are not only
totally wrong - but can end up leaving you more screwed up than you were to begin with!..
Self Help Approach #1: The popular
"Be a Warrior", and "fight your way
to success" approach:
Very popular these days, this is where people see themselves
as "warriors", and see life as a battle.
Approaching life that way actually put up more resistance and drag
on you and your efforts, than you can imagine...
Seeing everyone and everything as a battle where you need to be a warrior
fighting, is very exhausting and counterproductive.
It's *NOT* about, fighting, becoming stronger and more confident.
This is where I get controversial and am basically saying
this is where most of the self help books and gurus are completely wrong.
Anxiety freedom is not about becoming "better" or "stronger", or having more "confidence". It's about removing the crap that gets in the way of you being the naturally "confident" and resilient/able person you are by default.
Confidence is the biggest myth.
Confidence doesn't exist.
It's simply the absence of crap in your mind that gets in the way
of you feeling naturally "confident".
It's all about removing that crap, that gets in your way.
I get it tho...
Wanting to become stronger and more confident, is a normal desire and
goal of people to have:
Because they feel weak, fragile and anxious,
they're seeking to become "better", stronger and more "confident".
It seems to make sense, but here is why it doesn't and won't ever work:
When you're using force and willpower trying to push yourself
to feeling "strong", powerful and confident...
.... the more you do that, the more you and your brain become reactive
(and anxious). Your brain becomes unbalanced in how it works,
and the environment is set up again for anxiety to remain a problem.
If you fake and pump yourself up to feel strong ad confident...
...sure, it *may* work a bit temporarily, for a very short period of time.
But it won't solve the problem. And as soon as you stop putting so much effort into it,
you'll be back to being anxious and "not confident" once again.
Not to mention pumping yourself up is way too tiring to be able to do this for very long.
And most of the time, it doesn't work very much. If at all. Especially when it comes to anxiety.
So forget about, and let go of the quest to becoming "stronger", or more confident.
Which just doesn't work.
And simply focus on removing the crap that gets in the way of your natural state of "confidence".
That's when you actually get to enjoy your life.
Self Help Approach #2: Affirmations
Using Affirmations is the classic example of popular old self help
that dates back to the 1950s, literally.
Using affirmations just doesn't work.
It never helped me or the countless anxiety sufferers I've talked to.
It doesn't matter how many times you tell yourself affirmations about how great you are,
how able you are, how great things are going to go etc...
... you don't believe those things emotionally in your gut to begin with.
So no matter how many times you repeat those things, it not only doesn't
work for very long if at all, but will often make you feel worse.
Your Mouth goes "this is true!"
And your mind and body goes "No it's NOT!".
Put simply: you can't change how you emotionally feel with logical thoughts
Self Help Approach #3:**The Biggest Myth of All**
The myth that you can and should
feel amazing all the time
Please please please...
I know virtually every self help guru, book and program are
all focused on how to feel great and wonderful all the time...
...but PLEASE don't fall for this trap!!
The idea that you should never feel bad, that you can and should
always try and feel wonderful all the time, is an industry into itself.
It's also the BIGGEST lie ever!
It's the thing that screw people up the most of all!
Thinking that you can and should use your mind in a way to feel great all the time,
will land you in therapy faster than any encounter with a ghost ever will!
All those self help gurus and books that teach you to avoid pain and
find your inner happy place...
... that teach you how to reframe every single life situation and moment
into a great positive awesome experience...
It's balloony, and deep down inside you know it!
No one is supposed to feel wonderful all the time.
Nor should you try to.
The human experience is a buffet of the entire spectrum of emotions.
We experience all these emotions for a reason in most cases, and denying them
and trying to put a sugar coating on everything, won't do any good.
You're also denying all the possible reasons and problems in
your life, that may cause you to feel a certain way.
It's using force to deny and distort your experience of life, of yourself,
in the illusory hope you will never feel bad again.
It's denying a part of yourself, of your experience. And trying to fit into a fake, hollow and happy mold that's not a complete person. You become less than who you really are, fully.
These 3 self help approaches above are only a fraction of the countless
decades old self help techniques and approaches that keep being regurgitated
in the latest popular books of the month.
All these things don't work because they are not based on how the brain
works, and how problems are created solved in the brain.
These patches and bandaid actually WEAKEN your brain and your ability
to deal with things. Which means most self help end up making
you more fragile and make your anxiety worst than before!
The Real Solution to Anxiety?
The Solution to finally freeing yourselfcfrom even the most debilitating anxiety, is to make your brain TRULY more resilient, based on the latest cutting edge neuroscience research.
So it's able to deal with anything.
In order to do that, you must make your brain more "fluid", through what I call
"Adaptive Brain resilience". Don't let that fancy word scare you.